The 2025 February Virtual Conference

“This maybe the most important book about domestic violence written in our time. Michelle writes about their experiences with the Criminal Justice system through an outside perspective. Taking a step out and looking in really changes the view. We cannot simply shrug and say “that is the way it is”. We have to change and do better.”
-Myra Strand

Voices of Survival: Understanding the Criminalization of Domestic Violence Survivors

Join us for an impactful day-long training featuring Michelle Horton, author of “Dear Sister: A Memoir of Secrets, Survival, and Unbreakable Bonds.” This event will delve into the harrowing case of her sister, Nikki Addimando, who endured extreme domestic violence and ultimately killed her husband in self-defense.

Michelle will share her personal journey and analyze the myriad ways the criminal justice system failed to apply common sense and logic in Nikki’s case. Attendees will gain insight into the systemic shortcomings that often exacerbate the trauma experienced by survivors.

Following Michelle’s presentation, Russell Strand will approach the case from a human-centric investigations and prosecutions perspective. He will highlight critical moments where a trauma-informed lens could have significantly altered the outcome for Nikki and others like her.

Next, Myra Strand will delve into the topic of poly-victimization, shedding light on its complexities. In addition, she will highlight lethality indicators and harm reduction strategies, providing a comprehensive understanding of the risks victims face. She will then present practical safety planning strategies designed to prevent future tragedies. Her insights will equip responders with essential tools to effectively support and protect victims of domestic violence. Myra will conclude her discussion by addressing the dangers involved in exit planning.

This training is designed to be multidisciplinary, making it essential for all responders, especially child protection and child advocacy workers, who engage with victims of crime.

By understanding the complexities of this case and the broader implications for survivors, participants will enhance their skills in advocacy, intervention, and support, ultimately fostering a more informed and compassionate approach.

We often hear: “this is just the way it is”. The thing is… it does not have to be that way.
Nikki and Michelle are so graciously allowing us to learn from their experiences. That gift is precious because it comes at great personal cost.

We have to do better.

Michelle will be available to answer questions, ensuring a dynamic and interactive learning experience. Join us in this vital conversation to better serve those affected by domestic violence and to advocate for systemic change.